“米格道”运动现在已经是一种全球化的风尚了,“米格道”三个字其实是来源于MGTOW这个英文缩写,人们把MG念作“米格”,TOW念作“道”,即中国文化中的终极真理。米格道的字面意义指的是“走自己路的男人们”(Man Going Their Own Way),单数“走自己路的男人”为MGHOW“米格豪”。
而这些“男人们”就组成了这样一个“不惜一切代价维护男性至高主权”的圈子,他们之间最广泛的理念是这样的:
“They lose their creativity, their drive, their focus when they think about women and sex all day. I think men are realizing how much better life is when they don’t have to deal with these women or care so much about them and what they think.”
“一旦涉及到女人和性,男人就失去了创造力、动力和注意力。男人们会觉得,如果能够能够不去理会女人,不必关心她们,无需在意她们的想法,那生活就会变得灿烂无比。”
由此可见,这些参与MGTOW的男人们对女性抱着很大的敌意,他们中的大多数都尽最大可能在法律和情感上彻底远离女性,以自我权力为至尊,拒绝向女性妥协,认为这个社会和异性都对他们充满了敌意。
MGTOW的论坛首页有这么一句话:
Welcome to the wonderful world of MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way)
欢迎来到MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) 的精彩世界!
那么,MGTOW到底是个什么鬼呢?
A community of fellas who believe they need to “eliminate the biggest obstacle” that is stopping them from living their best lives.Those darn, pesky, money-sucking women.
MGTOW是一个社区,其成员们认为,他们需要消除阻碍他们过上最好生活的“最大的障碍”——即那些该死的、麻烦的、又”吸食“他们钱的女人们。
在这些成员眼中,女性是造成他们不幸生活的“罪魁祸首”:
As Mack Lamoureux put it, these men have “had enough … To them, the feminist movement has all but ruined our society, and it just doesn’t make sense to participate in the dating game because women have been, in their eyes, programmed to ruin a man’s life.
正如Mack Lamoureux所说,这些人“真是太多了......对他们来说,女权运动破坏了我们的社会,在他们眼中,约会没有任何意义,因为女人已经把男人的生活完全给毁了。“
一些MGTOW的成员们为自己立下了独身的誓词:“看那数千万剥削男性的荡妇没杰宝用之后怎么嚣张”。有的只与性工作者发生性关系:“妓女是唯一不虚伪的女人”。另一些则与大把女性睡觉,但拒绝许下婚约:“就算一个男的一生中只有三个情人,他也要爽过死守初爱的祖宗”。
“Around every corner they seem to see one-dimensional women who are just out to take their well-earned money and stick them with kids who aren’t theirs …They are f***ing terrified of those gosh-darn prevalent false rape accusations”.The words at the top of this post come from (the presumably musty bedroom of) Smitty6.
”每个角落里都有一些盯着妓女们的男人。这些身材一般般的站街女来钱很容易。他们同她们做爱,一旦不小心有了孩子,也没法知道孩子的父亲是谁。……他们一边同这些妓女做爱,又害怕接到那些该死的强奸指控。“这段话是Smitty6上一个帖子的前一段。
Smitty6是红迪网的一个MGTOW团体,它有 15,000位 用户。
MGTOW 社区的灵感最初来源于日本的”食草族男人“(没兴趣结婚找对象的男人)。(2010年通过调查发现,在日本的单身男人中,在20多岁就将自己归为”食草族男人“的男人占61%,在30多岁的则占到70%)。日本人认为,极端的“草食男”也会走向MGTOW。
这些MGTOW的成员们还为自己的理念从二次元中找到了“可靠”的来源:
The MGTOW group repeatedly references pop culture when explaining their ideology — Fight Club and they often refer to The Matrix — particularly the moment where Keanu’s character Neo chooses to reject his blinkered “blue pill” life in favor of the awareness offered by the “red pill” (speaking of which, if you want to go down another misogynistic rabbit hole, check out The Red Pill community).
MGTOW在解释他们的理念时,反复引用流行文化——《搏击俱乐部》以及他们经常谈到的《黑客帝国》——尤其是影片中关于尼奥(基努·里维斯所饰)的一幕:他放弃了回归虚拟生活的”蓝色药丸“,而选择了直面残酷真相的”红色药丸“。
同很懂游戏一样,这个搞笑的MGTOW 社区行动有五个不同等级供用户选择:
Level 0 — Situational Awareness: the member has “taken the red pill” and embraces the idea that gender equality is a lie.
0级——情境意识:这一级别的用户”选择了红色药丸“(勇敢探索真相),认为”性别平等“本身就是个错误的观念。
Level 1— Rejection of Long-Term Relationships: the man rejects long-term relationships but will still partake in short-term relationships and sexual encounters.
1级——拒绝长期恋爱关系:这一级别的用户拒绝长期恋爱关系、但仍会拥有短期恋爱关系及性生活。
Level 2— Rejection of Short-Term Relationships: the member won’t participate in hook-ups or any form of short-term or sexual relationships.
2级——拒绝短期恋爱关系:这一级别的用户拒绝短期恋爱中的任何异性接触。
Level 3— Economic Disengagement: a member at this stage refuses to earn more money than is necessary for sustaining life. He views the government as tyrannical and is trying to actively drain money from the bureaucrats.
3级——经济分离:这一级别的用户认为钱无需太多,够花就好,还将政府视为暴政,积极尝试从官僚那里获取收入。
Level 4— Societal Disengagement: this is as far as a mainstream MGTOW can go. Here the man refuses to interact with society. Basically, going full-hermit.
4级——社会分离:这是大部分MGTOW用户所处的级别。他们拒绝同社会接触。基本上类似于完全遁世者。
然而,作为“无毛两足直立行走的动物”,他们也是口嫌体正直:
Unfortunately it’s not that easy to completely ditch the ladies — they still have sexual urges(also, please note that homosexuality is utterly frowned upon). Thankfully there are some forms of sexual release that are deemed acceptable as you’re progressing up the MGTOW chain and tactics are discussed on the forums. Some men prefer one night stands, others rely solely on masturbation, and some routinely visit sex workers. The old adage “You don’t pay for the sex, you pay them to leave” is a popular sentiment on the forums.
不幸的是,完全脱离女性却并不是那么容易就能办到的——他们仍然有性冲动(当然请注意,同性恋者无须有这一担心的)。幸运的是,加入MGTOW社区的用户是被允许通过一些方式释放性欲的,论坛中也会讨论一些相关技巧。一些男人喜欢一晚上都站着,其他人则完全依靠打飞机,还有一些人则偶尔嫖妓。论坛上一句流传已久的话深受他们的欢迎:“你不是在支付嫖资,给她们钱只是要让她们滚。”
美国著名搭讪艺术家Roosh Varek曾在自己的网站上写道,MGTOW是个“猥琐男的撸瑟党”(creepy cult of male loserdom),说他们“拒绝承认人类的基本天性”。其它人直接说这是个成天只会玩游戏开车的宅男邪教。不管定义如何,Google搜索数据表明了这项运动正在扩张 。
大部分MGTOW口头挂着“zero fucks given”,认为他们选择的是一种哲理而不是一场运动。与试图改变社会的男权主义者不同,MGTOW为他们的狭隘刻薄感到骄傲。他们抵制婚姻,拒绝抚养后代,像群鸵鸟一样挺胸面对社会上种种唾骂。
比如说,有这样一位成员,以“真爱”作为自己走向社会的挡箭牌:
Myself, I hate getting associated with women in any form, be it relationships or sex, moreover i [sic] can’t have sex with a girl that i don’t love. I’m kind of old school here. Therefore for me to have sex i need to love her, so to love a girl i should throw away all my logical thinking and turn myself into a mangina, which i never wanted to be, hence i stayed virgin.”
“我自己本身就很讨厌同女人进行任何形式的接触,无论是谈恋爱还是滚床单,都是如此。此外,我做不到同我不喜欢的女孩儿滚床单。在这一点上我很保守。因此,滚床单的前提就是我要爱她,而爱一个人,就必须抛开逻辑思维,跟个娘们儿一样,我可不想这样。因此,我至今还是个雏儿。”
这位成员的话让小编想起了这样一幅图,VICE去年的文章《这群直男说他们不要女人》配了下面这张照片:一个肥胖男子身着DIY的英雄制服,在女性主义者大会外面举牌示威——“女权是无性欲女人的庇护所”。
可是,这些MGTOW天生就如此厌恶女性的吗?并不是。
墨菲斯是“红色药丸”论坛(与MGTOW相类似的论坛)的主持人,他在接受《商业内幕》采访时表达过这样的观点:
“The road to our forum is paved with bad experiences, men who have never been loved, have loved and lost, men who have tried and failed, or men who succeeded and were taken advantage of.”
”来论坛的男人在之前都曾有过一些不好的经历:他们有的不曾爱过、被爱过或是失去过,有的追求异性却求之不得,有的追到手却又被利用了。“
一位名为”艾丽西娅“的女博主在接受《商业内幕》采访时从更广泛的角度来谈了这个问题:”有很长一段时间,我都很同情这些人,他们中有些人真是太不幸了。“因为——
“They want female attention and for one reason or another, they’re not getting it.”
“出于某种原因,他们想吸引女性却求而不得。
Tristan Bridges博士是纽约布罗克波特大学的一名社会学教授助理,他同学术期刊《Men, Masculinities, and Methodologies 》展开合作。Bridges博士的工作是深入分析性别问题。VICE网站要他从学术角度解释MGTOW现象及历史上与之类似的“manosphere”运动。
“When we look at the historical record that’s what it shows: Men start to get pissed off and want to talk about masculinity and change masculinity right after there has been some sort of transformation in femininity,” Bridges said.
“纵观历史,我们就会发现:女性原本的阴柔之气在有了某种‘阳刚之气’后,男人就开始生气,并想要改变她们身上的阳刚之气。”Bridges博士说。
“When these kinds of things come up, I think historians would say something significant has happened with respect to gender inequality that men are feeling their position of privilege is challenged and this is a cultural reaction that takes place after that happens.”
“当以上这些事情出现时,历史学家们往往会说:男性在感到自己的特权地位受到挑战时,由于潜意识里的”性别的不平等“的观念,便会出现讨厌女性这一倾向。这是一种随之发生的文化反射。”
美国西方学院社会学副教授Lisa Wade也表述过类似的观点,当女性在社会中地位提升到让一些男性不自在的程度的时候,婚姻关系也成为了女性权力膨胀到一个表现。“MGTOW体现了有的人认为社会已经变得过度女性化,他们就直接离开,无意改变现状。”
在Wade眼里,这些人的态度不过是对传统的叛逆:“MGTOW追求的不仅是断绝与女性的关系,他们在呼唤一种特殊的,历史上从未见过的男人个性。他们的反面是爱家爱国的成熟男性:‘我要为了妻儿努力工作’或‘我要当一个明知的君主’。他们远离并摒弃了人们最熟悉与习惯的男性品格。”
然而,这一团体的可怕之处于它一旦在网络上发展起来,将会把这些东西展现给年轻的男孩子们:
“When you’re 15, girls are weird and you’re looking for answers. [These sites] claim to have them.”
“若你是个15岁的男孩儿,对女孩儿充满好奇,想要寻求答案。而这些网站又声称可以为你解惑。”
——这才是真正危险的事情。